Updated: Apr 16
1- Boundaries are essential
If you asked me two years ago what boundaries were and whether I used them, I would have looked at you with a very confused expression on my face. It wasn't something that was talked about growing up or taught to us in primary & secondary school. It was only in the last two years that I started to understand what boundaries were all about. I started saying "no" to certain things that didn't feel right for me, and I began to put my own boundaries in place when it came to a certain person, event, habit, situation etc. I am not blaming my family in this, because I don't think they really knew the importance of it either. That's why I feel the need to shout it from the rooftops, because we go through life thinking we don't have a choice on certain things when the reality is, we absolutely feckin do!!
2 - Forgive yourself & learn from it
I can not tell you how long I thought forgiveness was something you had to earn or something that could only happen once in a blue moon. I was convinced that the wrongdoings and mistakes I had made in my life were for keeps because I screwed up, I deserved to feel this way. I now realise how wrong that was, and how punishing myself for my mistakes wasn't going to turn back time. I know that there is a lesson in everything and if you learn from your past then forgiving yourself is the right thing to do to set yourself free. If you are reading this, now is the time to forgive <3
3 - Nobody notices as much as you think they do
My god, this was a big one for me. Now I won't lie to you, there are times when it might sneak back in, but I have learned that majority of the time, people don't actually notice as much as you think they do. People are living their own lives, thinking about what's happening for them or perhaps, they are also worrying what other people might be saying. I was convinced that any decisions or choices I made in life, people were going to be talking about it, passing judgment. This type of mental chatter would constantly roll around in my head and sometimes stop me from doing something, wearing something or saying something etc. If I had not worked on this, then I guarantee you I would not be writing this blog or running my own business in the wellness industry. Bottom line is, the more you care or worry about what others think or "might" be saying about you, the chances are, you are not living life to the full.
4 - You never stop working on yourself
When I started getting help for my mental health, I looked forward to the day when I would be "fixed" and was no longer someone who struggled in life. I thought I was going to wake up one day and finally be happy and content. What I didn't know then and what I know now, is that working on yourself will always be something you continue to do. You never stop learning, growing and changing as a human being. You never stop educating yourself with books, podcasts, workshops, classes, courses and talking with likeminded people. You begin to bring awareness into your life and can ask yourself questions such as: why did that trigger me? Why does my inner child feel this pain? What boundaries do I need to put in place here? What do I need in terms of self care today? Don't be afraid to start your journey!!
5 - You have the power within you to do anything
As cheesy as this may sound, it is honestly the truth. If you believe in yourself and you trust that what is for you will not pass you by, then you are further along than I was 2 years ago. I was that person who thought she was useless, shite at everything, the odd one out and the one who would not do much with her life. I berated myself every day and I sometimes get emotional when I think about just how awful I treated myself. Now, I know that I capable of anything I put my mind to. I am now doing something in my life that I adore and that helps so many people. I am able to do this work because of the journey I have been on and continue to be on. Don't ever think you are not capable of an amazing, wonderful life. You have the power within you for greatness, you just have to believe in yourself!!
If you want to talk about anything that I have mentioned in this blog, please do not hesitate to get in touch with me. My messages are always open to chat.
Eeeekkkk!! Thank you so much for reading my very first blog my lovely, I appreciate you!!
Take Care Always,
Worthy of Wellbeing